Sharing what I received in my daily OM today. It's wonderful how the universe reaches out when you need yo hear or read words vital to your spirit.

September 25, 2007
Sharing Grief
Opening To Receive Comfort

When we experience something that causes us to feel shock and sadness, we may feel the urge to withdraw from life. It may seem like remaining withdrawn will keep us protected from the world, but during these times it is important to reach out to those trusted and precious people who care about us the most. Even with our best information and reasoning, we never know when someone else's experience or perspective can give us additional information that we need. The universe speaks to us through many channels, and when we open ourselves up to receive its messages, we also receive nurturing care from a loving partner in life's journey.

Grief is part of the human experience, and sharing our vulnerability is what creates truly close bonds in our relationships. Opening ourselves up in this way gets to the core of our being, past all of our defenses and prejudices. When life seems to crack the outer shell of our world, we are both raw and fresh at the same time. It is then that we discover who is truly willing to walk with us through life. We also see that some of those sent to us may not be the ones we expected to see. Regardless, we learn to trust in the universe, in others, in our own strength and resilience, and in the wisdom of life itself.

Sharing grief allows us to ease our burden by letting someone else help carry it. This helps us process our own inner thoughts and feelings through the filter of a trusted and beloved someone. We may feel guilty or selfish, as if we are unloading on someone who has their own challenges. Although, if we think about it, we know we would do the same for them, and their protests would seem pointless. Remember that not sharing feelings with others denies them the opportunity to feel. We may be the messenger sent by the universe for their benefit, and it is on this mission that we have been sent. By sharing our hopes and fears, joys and pains with another person, we accept the universe's gifts of wisdom and loving care.

So, thank you, to so very many of you friends here who have reached out with your loving comments here on the blog, with private e-mails (even in the midst of your own enormous heartaches), with phone calls when I was truly falling apart, with cards that touch my heart, with beautiful art created with genuine love and affection.

I am just so blessed to be surrounded by loving family and circle of friends that even when you struggled with what to say or do....you did not hesitate, not one second.

The reflection of this terrible loss and unmeasurable grief is an outpouring of love and generosity that is truly beautiful.


Lori said...

Rella, i am so glad that you have so many friends and family supporting you in this time of grief...i am still keeping you in my thoughts and prayers...

Rosa said...

Isn't it wonderful when we receive "messages" that arrive at the perfect time and help, somehow, what we are going through. I feel they are sent from above, and that comforts me. You must know you are truly being watched over. I hope that comforts you in some little way. xo

red tin heart said...

sometimes i think it is hard to share grief because some do not want to hear it. i think that is why i withdraw. xo nita

Flea Market Queen said...

Rella...I have had you on my mind & hope you are doing well! I am new to your blog and it struck a cord with me. I'm not sure why as I have never been through the tragedy you are going through. But like I said you have been on my mind and I wanted to let you know!
Your friend...

Maija said...

You must know I am sitting here blubbering, Rella! Thank you so much for sharing this eloquent, and accurate, OM with me. I'm printing it out so I can keep it as a reminder of why life goes on.

Patti G. said...

Rella, I have been lax in getting to your blog and now that I am here, I am so saddened for your family for the loss of your sister! I feel like I have only a glimpse of what happened through the reading here, but know the pain and hurt is deep and overwhelming and your love for her overflowing! Please know that I am saying a prayer and sending a hug to you over the miles and although nothing will ease what you are feeling, I am brought back to the magnificent thought of how we are able to feel this great love for another and then of course the opposite when we have a loss! We are with you! Love,Patti